No, not really.

If that means 'Yes' then explain why it is so.

These are great considerations.

I think that Violet Starlight brought up a wonderful point. Indeed, WHY is one promiscuous to begin with?

I have a friend who is shedding her Catholic shame. She is being promiscuous in this time. She is young but very intelligent. I don't see her doing so for much longer.

It occurs to me that this also might be relative. I know someone who has three lovers and does not consider himself to be promiscuous. I know some people would qualify that as promiscuous.

I like Lolas consideration. She wants the act to be holy. With that in mind, I think there is a difference between sacred sex and just fucking (or sucking or what have you). Its like the difference between the sacrament of Holy Communion and just sucking on a peice of bread.

I do, however, want to point out the dangers of promiscuity. STD's are REAL. One of my closest friend is finding that out the hard way. I am also talking about emotional dangers. Love is so easy to confuse with sex that I think some people just shouldn't have promiscuous sex.

One of the Buddhist vows is to not misuse sexuality. There are more obvious examples of this (rape, cohersion, sex with subordinates and other non-consensual acts). But now comes the thought of squandering ones energy. Any thoughts on that?

"and i rather sleep in my bed and wake up alone than wake up empty"

word.
this is where i'm at too.
i was wild in college, 15 years ago. And then i went from one bad relationship to the next, with little space in between to find out what it's like just being me and in love with that. I was recently devastated by the father of my children and very deep scars were left. He left a hole in me that no one may ever fill. Until i find a way to fill it myself, i've decided to be celibate. I've decided this BECAUSE 10 years ago i would have filled it with being wanted, desired and loved by another man who ultimately wasn't enough for me. No one is enough for me. Like Lola, i was not nurtured or supported emotionally as a child, so i went out looking for it in all the wrong places. This last relationship was the worst because he just wouldn't give it up--i know he had the depth of love and strength of character i needed, but he reserved it for fear of being hurt. If it's right there, in the man who helped me make the kids, and i still can't have it, then i am probably supposed to be finding that on my own and not trying to get it from someone too afraid to love me.

So back to being promiscuous, i have no issues around sex. I can have sex at any level i want to, with any kind of man i choose. I can have sex with a friend and not have it be weird the next time we see each other, and not have any regrets. I was wild in college because i could be--i hadn't a care in the world, was always safe about it, slept with people's boyfriends, cheated on my boyfriend, whatever. It was all a game to me. Now that sex has so much more power, i can't do this anymore. When it comes to REAL sex, like unprotected, fluid-exchange sex, i treat that like the most holy act there is. I have only done that with 5 people in my whole life and there has only been one in the past 9 years--the one whose sacred seed brought my beautiful children into my life. I can't allow myself to connect on that level with someone who isn't aware of how sacred and powerful that is, the holy amrita. That is a whole other level of celibacy to me--even if i were to hook up with someone now, it wouldn't be like THAT. I am reserving that for...however long it takes to get over my kids' father and let myself fall in love again. By then i could be an old shriveled up hag.

But there is another level of promiscuity that i'm aware of. It's being promiscuous with love. I can connect with my heart wide-open very easily and i can share this with many people without feeling like a slut. This isn't about sex to me. I've always been free like this, heart chakra unabashedly open. Sometimes it's turned sexual, sometimes not. This is a level of promiscuity that i have no problem engaging, in fact it may help me to heal. I am reserving intercourse for a very cosmic, undeniable mutual connection and i will wait until i KNOW that i feel it.

thanks for the topic, it was a surprise to find it in here.
m7

from my point of veiw this is very logical,
promiscuous sex cant be spritual if its only done for physical purposes of pleasure,
if its fulfilling a spiritual purpose it has to be based on feelings with high vibrational rate such as love right ?

the question is : can such feelings be involved in promiscuous sex ?

/Robin